Your name determine your future???

from 龚依倩

(gong1 yi1 qian4)

to 龚苡阡

(gong1 yi3 qian1)

and now 龚谷觐

(gong1 yu4 jin4)

* i added the han yu pin yin as many people commented that they can't pronounce my name

daddy: yes
mummy: yes
darling: no
you?

Moral of the story: Hare and Tortoise

1. is good to be slow and steady; but it is better to be fast and consistent/reliable
if there are 2 people in the organization, one slow, methodical nad reliable and the other fastand still reliable at what he does, the fast and reliable chap will climb the organization ladder faster

2. identify your core competency and then change the playing field to suit your core competency
working to your strengths will not only get you noticed, but will also create opportunities for growth and advancement

3. teamwork is mainly about situational leadership, letting the person with relevant core competency for a situation take leadership
pooling resources and working as a team will always beat individual performers

4. instead of competing against a rival; start competing against the situation


p.s. I learnt this from someone who is very experience in the education field during yesterday training

Managing your finance WELL

Use it up

Wear it out

Use without

p.s. I learnt this from a couple who has been married for 20+years

Another piece of darling's work

Long long time ago in a far far away place live a king who has a beautiful princess. One day the king decided that it is time for her to get married but there was one problem...

The king called upon all princes, generals and wise men. Whoever was the smartest will marry the lovely princess. So, they did all sort of tricks but still the king was unhappy...

Till a young man came and say "I can make this rock float in the air". Everyone laughed at him but the king asked him to go on. How did he make the rock float in the air?

The young man wrapped the rock with a cloth and hammerred the rock to pieces and ashes. He then openned up the cloth and blew the powder away. True enough, the rock is now floating in the air:)

The young man then marry the lovely princess and they live happily ever after...

Moral of the story:
If there is someone who can make me fall like the rock in love and then melt my heart away and make my heart float all over, she has to be.....YOU!

*I found this last night, darling wrote this on 18 June 2002

Bad Weather?!

After 3 days of slacking and plenty of sleep, I'm feeling better today:)
Pity darling, still unwell:( He is tired, he didn't get enough rest for the past few night as he has been coughing very often due to his dry throat.

Everyone told me that because of the bad weather, virus and bacteria is everywhere... is this true?

I want grandma to see me walking down the aisle...

I wanted to write this blog 2 weeks ago, but I was too emotional....

I visited grandma on 23rd May 2010 at aunt Helen's new apartment. She was very happy to see me and as usual I asked her whether she knows who I am. She manage to utter a few words and she called my name after I reminded her who I am. I was over the moon!!! I can't recall when was the last time she call me, she has Alzheimer. Grandma is getting weaker, especially after she fell in the toilet and broke her pelvis bone. I will cry whenever I visit her as I can't believe how can such an active lady lost her ability to do simple tasks like go to the toilet, have lunch etc. I tried very hard to hold my tears as I don't want her to cry.

I gave her some money and told her to buy some bird nest (her favourite) and some food when she go out. Grandma told me that she seldom buy food, but she still clinched onto the money tightly. She was very happy, just like a little girl gets her favourite ice-cream (aunt said she love money) and refuse to give to anyone.

At noon, mum wanted Yan Meng and I to serve her tea. Mum told her that I will be getting married soon and Yan Meng will take good care of me and thus she need not to worry about me. Grandma started to cry..... mum helped her to place a ring (about 100 years old) on my middle finger which was inherited by my greatgrandma. Mum told me that when grandma was at about 70+ years old, she told my mum to give me the ring when I get married and I must then pass it down to my daughter.

I hugged and kiss her, thank her for all her hard work in taking care of me. I'm not sure whether she understand but she cried... We know that she has many things to tell me but she just doesn't have the energy, she tried... Mum told grandma not to say anything as I will understand. Aunt asked grandma not to cry as this is a happy occassion.

I remembered in 2004, before Yan Meng and I flew to UK, grandma called and wanted to meet us. After some conversation, she brought out 2 glasses of water, she demanded Yan Meng and I to serve her the drink. Mum said I'm her favourite grandchild who she has been taking care of since I was borned. Her biggest wish is to see me marry happily. I guess at that moment, she just worried that she won't have the chance to see it...

I regretted not following mum's advice to have my chinese wedding ceremony soon, when grandma is still healthy.

Last week, I visited grandma again. She is so much weaker compare to the week before, both her legs and hands are swollen. Doctor said her internal organ is getting weaker and thus not functioning well. I cried as I know she is in pain although she was sleeping soundly when I visited.

I really wish that my grandma will see me in my beautiful wedding gown...
Please...

*I'm still crying at the end of this blog...