“When will you get married?”
It is very normal for people in their twenties and after dating for some time to get such question from relatives and friends. I am lucky enough to have my lovely mum to help me out during this awkward situation. Although I know deep down, mum would like me to complete the process i.e. the traditional ceremony (after 1+ year of R.O.M).
To be honest, I always dream that darling will melt my heart with a romantic proposal just like those in movie. I can’t wait to be the prettiest princess who walks down the aisle with my prince charming and be the central attraction even only for a few hours. I believe I am physically and mentally prepare for this but………. financially not!!
Coincidently, there are lots of romantic love stories these few weeks on tv when I’m alone and far away from love one. (yup, darling is away on business trip again) I was so touch by the weekend’s drama about how this man willing to sacrifice himself to the woman he loves. He was there to comfort her when her boyfriend involved in an accident, he was there to help her boyfriend to re-gain his memories etc, basically he is there 24/7, whenever the girl needs support. Another educational movie by Health Promotional Board shows how the wife stands by her husband who contracted HIV after a drunken night with prostitute. She not only forgiven her husband but also give all the moral support he needs, even they faces lots of pressure from others.
“Have you pregnant?”
I bet most you will agree with me that after the wedding bells, it always follow by the second question. Most people know that I love kids and that’s the main reason why I become a teacher. I remember I told mum that I would like to have 6 children, she was shocked and replied that 3 is just nice. Being the only girl in the family, I am feeling lonely as no one plays Barbie dolls with me or share girlie secret. Thus, I reckon 2 boys + 2 girls is the perfect number!!
The other day, some one posted an interesting question over a lunch break. "If maternity leave is 4 months, will your maternity leave double if you carry a twin?" The root of this thought is because one of my colleagues is currently carrying triplet, we are wondering whether she will be having 12 months maternity leave… Wishing her all the best as it is not easy to be a mum of three!!
Many times, my friends, colleagues and students asked when I will be a mum. I am really excited when I see babies or young kids as it always come with laughter as a package. Come back to reality, it actually packs with worries too -- fever, mischievous, teenage rebellious etc. My cheeky students ‘reassured’ me that additional of a little rascal on top of them won’t show great effect (which is quite true). Last week, the trainer told us that she only introduced tv (bad influence) to her son when he was 6 years old. Without tv, her son spent most of his free time reading books and that’s how he developed excellent language skill which is a handy tool to obtain knowledge. My mum believes that family education and the parents’ role model will mould the children accordingly.
My greatest worry will be the babies’ health condition where according to Hariz I worried too much. Mum agrees 100% with Hariz as she reckons the more knowledgeable you are the more fears/suspicions you have. During a sharing session with parents of special needs kids, they shared with us how disastrous they felt when they first found out about their kids’ disability. They blame themselves for not having sufficient knowledge/not observance enough to spot the abnormality earlier. They never grumble about the extra time/money they spent on their kids, in fact, they willing to sacrifice everything to exchange for the kids’ health.
Anywhere, as darling always says, what ever happen to us are God wishes/arrangements. So, just face them and accept them with an open heart :)
It is very normal for people in their twenties and after dating for some time to get such question from relatives and friends. I am lucky enough to have my lovely mum to help me out during this awkward situation. Although I know deep down, mum would like me to complete the process i.e. the traditional ceremony (after 1+ year of R.O.M).
To be honest, I always dream that darling will melt my heart with a romantic proposal just like those in movie. I can’t wait to be the prettiest princess who walks down the aisle with my prince charming and be the central attraction even only for a few hours. I believe I am physically and mentally prepare for this but………. financially not!!
Coincidently, there are lots of romantic love stories these few weeks on tv when I’m alone and far away from love one. (yup, darling is away on business trip again) I was so touch by the weekend’s drama about how this man willing to sacrifice himself to the woman he loves. He was there to comfort her when her boyfriend involved in an accident, he was there to help her boyfriend to re-gain his memories etc, basically he is there 24/7, whenever the girl needs support. Another educational movie by Health Promotional Board shows how the wife stands by her husband who contracted HIV after a drunken night with prostitute. She not only forgiven her husband but also give all the moral support he needs, even they faces lots of pressure from others.
“Have you pregnant?”
I bet most you will agree with me that after the wedding bells, it always follow by the second question. Most people know that I love kids and that’s the main reason why I become a teacher. I remember I told mum that I would like to have 6 children, she was shocked and replied that 3 is just nice. Being the only girl in the family, I am feeling lonely as no one plays Barbie dolls with me or share girlie secret. Thus, I reckon 2 boys + 2 girls is the perfect number!!
The other day, some one posted an interesting question over a lunch break. "If maternity leave is 4 months, will your maternity leave double if you carry a twin?" The root of this thought is because one of my colleagues is currently carrying triplet, we are wondering whether she will be having 12 months maternity leave… Wishing her all the best as it is not easy to be a mum of three!!
Many times, my friends, colleagues and students asked when I will be a mum. I am really excited when I see babies or young kids as it always come with laughter as a package. Come back to reality, it actually packs with worries too -- fever, mischievous, teenage rebellious etc. My cheeky students ‘reassured’ me that additional of a little rascal on top of them won’t show great effect (which is quite true). Last week, the trainer told us that she only introduced tv (bad influence) to her son when he was 6 years old. Without tv, her son spent most of his free time reading books and that’s how he developed excellent language skill which is a handy tool to obtain knowledge. My mum believes that family education and the parents’ role model will mould the children accordingly.
My greatest worry will be the babies’ health condition where according to Hariz I worried too much. Mum agrees 100% with Hariz as she reckons the more knowledgeable you are the more fears/suspicions you have. During a sharing session with parents of special needs kids, they shared with us how disastrous they felt when they first found out about their kids’ disability. They blame themselves for not having sufficient knowledge/not observance enough to spot the abnormality earlier. They never grumble about the extra time/money they spent on their kids, in fact, they willing to sacrifice everything to exchange for the kids’ health.
Anywhere, as darling always says, what ever happen to us are God wishes/arrangements. So, just face them and accept them with an open heart :)
